Category Archives: Perspective

Found and Lost

During the gawky, dark, painfully insecure pre and early-adolescent summers of my youth, I attended what was advertised as an “inter-faith, inter-racial” summer camp out in what was once the wilds of Connecticut, before it became greatly suburbanized. From what … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Autumn, Friends, grief, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | 2 Comments

Purging With Regrets

Serious clutter-bugs hoping to change their ways were buzzing with excitement about how The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up  by Marie Kondo was helping to unburden their lives. Being the Collector of Lots of Good Stuff, it seemed like just the thing … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Regrets, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 10 Comments

Circle

Of course I remember July 20th, an image burned in my brain, because that was the day I looked up at the solar eclipse and got slapped in the face by my grandmother, while she shrieked “You’ll go blind!” It … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, summer, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | 4 Comments

Amp-Bump

Out of the blue, my usually uncommunicative brother sent my sisters and I this text: “Do you guys remember amp bump???” Amp bump?  I could almost feel my brain physically shifting into a time warp. Amp bump. Oh my God, … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | 10 Comments

The Littlest of Things

It has been many months since I have attempted a blog post – essentially rendered speechless and saddened by what is going on in our country and in the world. In this time of tremendous stress, uncertainty, conflict, fear, and … Continue reading

Posted in Coping, grief, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

Magic Sunglasses

As summer has waned and eased into autumn, the deciduous trees have turned to that “it’s-all-over-for-this-year” dull green, with small bursts and streaks of color here and there, as highlights on fading tresses.  While driving, I could not but help … Continue reading

Posted in Autumn, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | Leave a comment

Blessings Amid the Depression

Breakfast this morning consisted of a handful of foraged chanterelle mushrooms sautéed in butter and garlic, then scrambled into two fresh eggs from a neighbor’s chickens and sprinkled with ground Himalayan pink salt and fresh peppercorn. The mushroom eggs were … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Coping, grief, Hearing Impaired, Perspective, Rant, Uncategorized, Vent | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Men Give Me Knives

While rummaging through some drawers and stored boxes, I came across a number of different knives, mostly pocket-type and folding knives, which have been given to me by various men over the years.  It is not the first time I … Continue reading

Posted in Friends, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , | 3 Comments

Miracles and Magic In Your Hands

Have you stopped to notice all the little miracles that pass through our hands daily? While skimming through a number of recent and stored photographs, I could not help but realize how many beautiful things these worn out old hands … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Photography, Spring, Uncategorized, Wow! | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Tale of the Traveling Chairs

The Great Divorce in our family took place in California back in the 1970’s. Along with moving herself and children to the bottom half of a stucco two-family house with a Spanish tile roof,  my mother launched into her new … Continue reading

Posted in Divorce, Friends, Perspective, Regrets, Travel, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

My Little Black Book is Blue

Not that long ago it seems, before cell phone contact lists and computer address databases, there was The Address Book.  Even though that information is stored on both my phone and in a computer file, stashed in a top drawer … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Friends, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , | 4 Comments

Priorities

The Significant Other is self-employed in the construction trade and is kind of a “Mr. Fixit.”  Following a recent accident which required some surgery, the involuntary down-time has kept him home for much of the week.  He is pretty good … Continue reading

Posted in Are you kidding me?, Humor, Perspective, Rant, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , | 10 Comments

Machine Age

You would think I had grown up in the days of my grandmother or possibly my great-grandmother if you saw the kind of appliances I had in my house, right up into the 1990’s.  As a twenty-something and even a … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Cooking, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

A Bowl of Good Fortune

Returning from the weekly excursion to our uptown farmer’s market, I added sweet white donut peaches and local apples to the avocados, tiny Seckel pears and other staples already filling this bowl of good fortune.   This vision required the need … Continue reading

Posted in Diet, Food, Perspective, summer, Wow! | Tagged , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Looking Up

I just happened to have another one of those oddly moving parking lot experiences. It is a hot, bright August day with a slight tinge of humidity in the air.  Despite the delicious temptation of slabbing out in front of … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Photography, summer, Uncategorized, Weather, Wow! | Tagged , , , , , | 4 Comments

West Wind

Last night the west wind blew down all the cherry blossoms from the tree across the street. They landed on our side of the road, gathering in a lovely line of candy-pink bubblegum bliss along the curb. I was filled … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Spring, Uncategorized, Wow! | Tagged , , , , | 4 Comments

Cheese Puff Bliss

You never know when and where you might discover a moment of contentment.  It feels like a gift when those times happen unbidden and unexpectedly. Having just finished shopping and while loading my groceries into the trunk of the car, … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Spring, Uncategorized | Tagged , , | 2 Comments

What Do You Do All Day?

Since I have been officially out of the workforce, people who are working full-time or who I have not seen in a while will inevitably turn to me and say “So…….now that you are not working, what do you do … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Are you kidding me?, Bucket List, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , | 4 Comments

Writhing With Guilt

Today I realize my shoe-a-holism has gotten a bit out of control.  I sit here and writhe with guilt. As posted previously in this blog, I have a lot of shoes.  Shoes of many colors. Not “designer” shoes,  just comfortable, … Continue reading

Posted in Fashion, Perspective, Regrets, Shoes, Shopping, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

Hiding Behind a Tree

As if my heart could not get any fuller, my first-born grandchild started his very first day of pre-school this morning.  Wasn’t it but yesterday when I had to leave my first child in daycare?  There was no choice…I had … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, kids, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , | 1 Comment

Left Out

There are always challenges in the reshuffling of families, friendships and loyalties when it comes to a divorce.  Over the many years since mine occurred, there have been waves of   problems laced with intense hostility interspersed with moments of peacefulness … Continue reading

Posted in Coping, Divorce, Friends, Perspective, Regrets, Uncategorized, Vent | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Our Lady of the Perpetual Kitchen

My grandmother was Catholic, my mother was raised Catholic, and so she tried to raise us as Catholics too.  I consider myself a “Collapsed Catholic” and will usually check “none” on any form asking my religion.  I never was able … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | 4 Comments

Meditation in Blue

There is a place I consider somewhat sacred – a place that I have been going to for decades.  It is an orchard farm not far from my home. It has been the place I would go to pick berries, … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Photography | Tagged , , , , | 5 Comments

Crossing a Line

No stranger to comfortable shoes, one peek in my closet will reveal a significant selection of Birkenstocks, Danskos, Naots, Merrills and Clarks.  I have spent good money on good shoes because I can’t stand it if my feet hurt.  I … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Perspective, Shopping, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , | 8 Comments

A Change of Status

I am unemployed.  Or “retired”, as some people have congratulated me on, although that word doesn’t seem to quite fit.  I feel like I am actually a “retirement imposter” in a sense, because this “retirement” was mostly unplanned, not affordable, … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Hearing Impaired, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Accepting What You Do Not Want (or “When is a Brulee not a Brulee?”)

Yesterday I was accused by my daughter of becoming more cranky and less tolerant about certain things as I have gotten older.  This statement was made following the specific incident below, in which I actually was a bit cranky and … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Are you kidding me?, Humor, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 11 Comments

Stealth

When it came to a choice of animal companions, my family always fell into the “dog people” category. But there hasn’t been a dog in my life for a very long time.  There are a number of reasons for that, … Continue reading

Posted in Animal Stories, Dogs, Friends, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | Leave a comment

Major Artistic Deficit Disorder

Having grown up the child of artists, it naturally followed that those we interacted with and bonded with would lean towards the creative.  And so, throughout this life, I have found myself  surrounded by an abundance of talented friends. I … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Friends, Perspective, Regrets, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , | 14 Comments

Certain Unalienable Rights

Second section in Declaration of Independence, 1776 – “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the … Continue reading

Posted in Are you kidding me?, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

The Memory Box

One of the drawers in my bedroom is filled with socks.  In the back of that drawer, buried behind those socks is a green and orange lacquered box which was carved and painted by my father many years ago.  It … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | 2 Comments

That Snooty Woman With All the Fancy Instruments

One of the things I like to do for leisure and sometimes passion is to play percussive instruments.  I like to drum, especially on drums played with the hands – a djembe, a doumbek, a frame drum or riqq.  I … Continue reading

Posted in Deafness, Friends, Hearing Impaired, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | 4 Comments

Displacement

Our office building caught fire.  While we were in it. It seems events leading up to the moment of ignition had been occurring for a few hours, as there had been an electric-like odor in the copy room that morning.  … Continue reading

Posted in Coping, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , | 4 Comments

I Kissed Rick Danko

I didn’t plan on attending Levon Helm’s wake today. Yes, I had been a fan of The Band for many years, but I dislike crowds and am seriously adverse to fan/fame worship.  And yet, on some level I was still … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Friends, Perspective, Regrets, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , | 9 Comments

A Matter of Interpretation

As someone who writes essays and blog posts, you would think that there would be a corresponding adeptness to creating written correspondence that would clearly translate my thoughts to the recipient.  It is not as if I am writing in … Continue reading

Posted in Coping, Deafness, Friends, Perspective, Regrets, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

What I Found While Walking in the Woods Today….

Took a break today and walked along some winding back roads bordered by deep woods, which then led out to a highway.  During this short journey, I came across these items and wondered about their story. A dead bird lying … Continue reading

Posted in Birds, Perspective, Photography, Uncategorized, Winter | Tagged , , , , , , | 3 Comments

And We Begin Anew

Here it comes…. 2012, our self-imposed start date to begin anew.  Let’s work to make it a good one.  Let’s all use our collective thoughts to move forward into something healthy, and intelligent, and kind.  Wishing all fresh beginnings and … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized, Winter | Tagged , , , | 6 Comments

The Eye of the Beholder

“What’s the worst Christmas present you ever received?” That was a question put forth to a number of women in an online group I had belonged to years ago.  This same question came up yet again at a party I attended during the … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | 5 Comments

The New Rules

It has been almost a  year since I put up my first post after waffling about putting up a tree for the holidays, deciding to do it, ending up getting into it in a deep way which had nothing to do with the … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized, Winter | Tagged , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Feral Crap

I will be blunt and maybe a bit vulgar here – yesterday morning I stepped in cat shit, and that is exactly the word I screamed after stepping in it. Since there are no young children in the house at the moment, I did not yell … Continue reading

Posted in Gardening, Perspective, Rant, Uncategorized, Vent | Tagged , , , | 3 Comments

A Whole Lot of Apples

This approaching storm was embraced with a small twinge of anticipation.  I love intense weather –  the scent of change on the wind, the shifting of light, the movement of strange skies.  It is as if every cell becomes alive with … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized, Weather | Tagged , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Hippie Haj

I have a really bad attitude when it comes to the commercialization of those things which represent “my” generation, which is that of The Boomer.  Most specifically, I gag at all this glorifying of the “Woodstock era” – the life and times … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Friends, Perspective, Travel, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , | 3 Comments

No Rose-colored Glasses For Me

Two years ago I noticed things were starting to look a little fuzzy, especially in one eye. When speaking to someone sitting in front of a window or back-lit in silhouette, I could not see their face for the white … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | 3 Comments

From a Bench on Main Street

I am distracted today as I prepare for the weekend ahead, so I don’t have much to say today, but there is an image that keeps popping up in my head. A few weeks ago I had been walking down … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , | 2 Comments

The Shards of Our Lives

The Significant Other is like a bull in a china shop. That is the image that usually goes through my mind when I take a dish out of the kitchen cabinet and see the condition of it. My dishes, which … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , | 5 Comments

Skinny Girl

I was always the skinny girl.  Not the long, lithe, willowy model skinny girl, but the gawkishly thin, angular, hollow-eyed skinny girl.  A skinny girl in school who looked like an X-ray…….with knobby knees, tiny bones, all feet and nose and elbows and spine.  The … Continue reading

Posted in Aging, Diet, Perspective, Uncategorized, Weight | 4 Comments

Fences

It has been an adjustment getting used to living in a small city, with neighbors dwelling very close by.  Most of the homes on our street, built in the late 1800’s and early 1900’s,  have weathered, stockade fences between them.  However, this house came equipped … Continue reading

Posted in Gardening, Perspective, Rant, Regrets, Uncategorized | Tagged | 1 Comment

Never Mind – I’ll Tell You Later

The group is bantering witticisms back and forth and raucous laughter ensues.  I am standing among them, nodding and smiling, and my brain is working hard and at double time.  I am trying to string together the words I missed with … Continue reading

Posted in Coping, Deafness, Friends, Hearing Impaired, Perspective, Rant | Tagged , , , | 12 Comments

Spinner

This Earth Day marks the 12th anniversary of my mother’s death.  A day filled with golden daffodils, warm soil, the haze of soft greening and points of pastel color just emerging – much like an Impressionist painting – essentially the same as it was on the day she left us years … Continue reading

Posted in Perspective, Regrets, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Door Number Three

After spending the day exploring the Spice Market and touring around in the Sultanahmet district, it finally got to the point where I seriously had to pee, and very soon, so the search for a bathroom began in earnest.  In the middle … Continue reading

Posted in Humor, Perspective, Travel, Uncategorized | Tagged , , | 2 Comments

Resisting the Social Network (is that you in that photo?)

It was through my then fourteen year old that I first became aware of online social networks and blogs like Live Journal and MySpace, where it seemed kids were regurgitating the minutiae of their lives ad nauseum and flaunting their bootie for the … Continue reading

Posted in Friends, Perspective, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , | 1 Comment