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Category Archives: Perspective
Amp-Bump
Out of the blue, my usually uncommunicative brother sent my sisters and I this text: “Do you guys remember amp bump???” Amp bump? I could almost feel my brain physically shifting into a time warp. Amp bump. Oh my God, … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged 1960's childhood, Childhood, doll house, imaginative play, Memories, sibling memories
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Magic Sunglasses
As summer has waned and eased into autumn, the deciduous trees have turned to that “it’s-all-over-for-this-year” dull green, with small bursts and streaks of color here and there, as highlights on fading tresses. While driving, I could not but help … Continue reading
Posted in Autumn, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged if only, illusions, magic glasses, reality, truth, what is real
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Blessings Amid the Depression
Breakfast this morning consisted of a handful of foraged chanterelle mushrooms sautéed in butter and garlic, then scrambled into two fresh eggs from a neighbor’s chickens and sprinkled with ground Himalayan pink salt and fresh peppercorn. The mushroom eggs were … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Coping, grief, Hearing Impaired, Perspective, Rant, Uncategorized, Vent
Tagged appreciation, blessings, depressed, depression, dysthymia, feeling blue, gratefulness, loss, moods, people judging depression
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Men Give Me Knives
While rummaging through some drawers and stored boxes, I came across a number of different knives, mostly pocket-type and folding knives, which have been given to me by various men over the years. It is not the first time I … Continue reading
Posted in Friends, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged a woman receiving a knife, giving a knife, knives as gifts, men and women, pocket knife
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Miracles and Magic In Your Hands
Have you stopped to notice all the little miracles that pass through our hands daily? While skimming through a number of recent and stored photographs, I could not help but realize how many beautiful things these worn out old hands … Continue reading
Posted in Perspective, Photography, Spring, Uncategorized, Wow!
Tagged beautiful earth, beautiful nature, gifts of spring, miracles, nature, small wonders, these old hands, wonder, wonderous things
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Tale of the Traveling Chairs
The Great Divorce in our family took place in California back in the 1970’s. Along with moving herself and children to the bottom half of a stucco two-family house with a Spanish tile roof, my mother launched into her new … Continue reading
Posted in Divorce, Friends, Perspective, Regrets, Travel, Uncategorized
Tagged bentwood chairs, cane chairs, clearing out, divorce, family history, Memories, old furniture, possessions, purging, relocation
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My Little Black Book is Blue
Not that long ago it seems, before cell phone contact lists and computer address databases, there was The Address Book. Even though that information is stored on both my phone and in a computer file, stashed in a top drawer … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Friends, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged address book, Change, impermanence, Memories, time
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Priorities
The Significant Other is self-employed in the construction trade and is kind of a “Mr. Fixit.” Following a recent accident which required some surgery, the involuntary down-time has kept him home for much of the week. He is pretty good … Continue reading
Machine Age
You would think I had grown up in the days of my grandmother or possibly my great-grandmother if you saw the kind of appliances I had in my house, right up into the 1990’s. As a twenty-something and even a … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Cooking, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged antiques, clutter, gadgets, hippie, kitchen tools, machines, old appliances, too much stuff
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A Bowl of Good Fortune
Returning from the weekly excursion to our uptown farmer’s market, I added sweet white donut peaches and local apples to the avocados, tiny Seckel pears and other staples already filling this bowl of good fortune. This vision required the need … Continue reading
Posted in Diet, Food, Perspective, summer, Wow!
Tagged beauty, Color, Farmer's Market, fruit, grateful, photography, thankful
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Looking Up
I just happened to have another one of those oddly moving parking lot experiences. It is a hot, bright August day with a slight tinge of humidity in the air. Despite the delicious temptation of slabbing out in front of … Continue reading
Posted in Perspective, Photography, summer, Uncategorized, Weather, Wow!
Tagged city view, clouds, looking up, sky, unexpected beauty, urban nature
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West Wind
Last night the west wind blew down all the cherry blossoms from the tree across the street. They landed on our side of the road, gathering in a lovely line of candy-pink bubblegum bliss along the curb. I was filled … Continue reading
Posted in Perspective, Spring, Uncategorized, Wow!
Tagged beauty, cherry blossoms, early morning, Spring, wonderous things
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Cheese Puff Bliss
You never know when and where you might discover a moment of contentment. It feels like a gift when those times happen unbidden and unexpectedly. Having just finished shopping and while loading my groceries into the trunk of the car, … Continue reading
What Do You Do All Day?
Since I have been officially out of the workforce, people who are working full-time or who I have not seen in a while will inevitably turn to me and say “So…….now that you are not working, what do you do … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Are you kidding me?, Bucket List, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged not working, out of the work force, retirement
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Writhing With Guilt
Today I realize my shoe-a-holism has gotten a bit out of control. I sit here and writhe with guilt. As posted previously in this blog, I have a lot of shoes. Shoes of many colors. Not “designer” shoes, just comfortable, … Continue reading
Posted in Fashion, Perspective, Regrets, Shoes, Shopping, Uncategorized
Tagged excess consumerism, excess shoes, guilt, red boots, red cowboy boots, red cowgirl boots, red shoes, Shoe-a-holics, Too Many Shoes
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Hiding Behind a Tree
As if my heart could not get any fuller, my first-born grandchild started his very first day of pre-school this morning. Wasn’t it but yesterday when I had to leave my first child in daycare? There was no choice…I had … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, kids, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged children, first day of pre-school, grand parenting
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Left Out
There are always challenges in the reshuffling of families, friendships and loyalties when it comes to a divorce. Over the many years since mine occurred, there have been waves of problems laced with intense hostility interspersed with moments of peacefulness … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Divorce, Friends, Perspective, Regrets, Uncategorized, Vent
Tagged being excluded, divorce, divorcee, ex-husband, ex-inlaws, former family, former inlaws, hostile divorce, rules of divorce
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Our Lady of the Perpetual Kitchen
My grandmother was Catholic, my mother was raised Catholic, and so she tried to raise us as Catholics too. I consider myself a “Collapsed Catholic” and will usually check “none” on any form asking my religion. I never was able … Continue reading
Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged Catholic, Immaculate Heart, mom, religion, religious relics, Virgin Mary Statue
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Meditation in Blue
There is a place I consider somewhat sacred – a place that I have been going to for decades. It is an orchard farm not far from my home. It has been the place I would go to pick berries, … Continue reading
Crossing a Line
No stranger to comfortable shoes, one peek in my closet will reveal a significant selection of Birkenstocks, Danskos, Naots, Merrills and Clarks. I have spent good money on good shoes because I can’t stand it if my feet hurt. I … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Perspective, Shopping, Uncategorized
Tagged boomers, comfortable shoes, growing older, over fifty, Shoe-a-holics, Shoes, shopping with elderly
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A Change of Status
I am unemployed. Or “retired”, as some people have congratulated me on, although that word doesn’t seem to quite fit. I feel like I am actually a “retirement imposter” in a sense, because this “retirement” was mostly unplanned, not affordable, … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Hearing Impaired, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged baby boomer, boomers, disability, growing older, identity crisis, now what?, retirement, the autumn years, unemployed, who am i now?
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Major Artistic Deficit Disorder
Having grown up the child of artists, it naturally followed that those we interacted with and bonded with would lean towards the creative. And so, throughout this life, I have found myself surrounded by an abundance of talented friends. I … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Friends, Perspective, Regrets, Uncategorized
Tagged Am I an Artist?, art as a living, artist life, artistic friends, artists, creativity, lack of focus, talent
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Certain Unalienable Rights
Second section in Declaration of Independence, 1776 – “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the … Continue reading
That Snooty Woman With All the Fancy Instruments
One of the things I like to do for leisure and sometimes passion is to play percussive instruments. I like to drum, especially on drums played with the hands – a djembe, a doumbek, a frame drum or riqq. I … Continue reading
Posted in Deafness, Friends, Hearing Impaired, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged aloofness, Drumming, group dynamics, perspective, possessions, unfriendliness
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Displacement
Our office building caught fire. While we were in it. It seems events leading up to the moment of ignition had been occurring for a few hours, as there had been an electric-like odor in the copy room that morning. … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged business as usual, disoriented, Fire, office fire, smoke damage
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I Kissed Rick Danko
I didn’t plan on attending Levon Helm’s wake today. Yes, I had been a fan of The Band for many years, but I dislike crowds and am seriously adverse to fan/fame worship. And yet, on some level I was still … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Friends, Perspective, Regrets, Uncategorized
Tagged fame, fans, idol worship, Levon Helm, Rick Danko, The Band, Wakes, Woodstock
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A Matter of Interpretation
As someone who writes essays and blog posts, you would think that there would be a corresponding adeptness to creating written correspondence that would clearly translate my thoughts to the recipient. It is not as if I am writing in … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Deafness, Friends, Perspective, Regrets, Uncategorized
Tagged hearts, hurt, hurt feelings, insults, miscommunication, misinterpretation, misunderstandings, translation, Valentine card
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And We Begin Anew
Here it comes…. 2012, our self-imposed start date to begin anew. Let’s work to make it a good one. Let’s all use our collective thoughts to move forward into something healthy, and intelligent, and kind. Wishing all fresh beginnings and … Continue reading
Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized, Winter
Tagged 2012, Happy New Year, New beginnings, New Year
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The Eye of the Beholder
“What’s the worst Christmas present you ever received?” That was a question put forth to a number of women in an online group I had belonged to years ago. This same question came up yet again at a party I attended during the … Continue reading
The New Rules
It has been almost a year since I put up my first post after waffling about putting up a tree for the holidays, deciding to do it, ending up getting into it in a deep way which had nothing to do with the … Continue reading
Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized, Winter
Tagged Change, changing traditions, children growing up, Christmas, Families, Holidays, new rules, Traditions
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Feral Crap
I will be blunt and maybe a bit vulgar here – yesterday morning I stepped in cat shit, and that is exactly the word I screamed after stepping in it. Since there are no young children in the house at the moment, I did not yell … Continue reading
Posted in Gardening, Perspective, Rant, Uncategorized, Vent
Tagged eccentricities, feral cats, Neighbors, wild cats
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A Whole Lot of Apples
This approaching storm was embraced with a small twinge of anticipation. I love intense weather – the scent of change on the wind, the shifting of light, the movement of strange skies. It is as if every cell becomes alive with … Continue reading
Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized, Weather
Tagged After the storm, Before the storm, disaster, Hurricane, Hurricane Irene, smugness, stormy skies
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The Hippie Haj
I have a really bad attitude when it comes to the commercialization of those things which represent “my” generation, which is that of The Boomer. Most specifically, I gag at all this glorifying of the “Woodstock era” – the life and times … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Friends, Perspective, Travel, Uncategorized
Tagged Bethel Woods, Hippie Museum, Hippies, The 60's, The 70's, Woodstock, Woodstock concert
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No Rose-colored Glasses For Me
Two years ago I noticed things were starting to look a little fuzzy, especially in one eye. When speaking to someone sitting in front of a window or back-lit in silhouette, I could not see their face for the white … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged Cataract Operation, Cataract Surgery, Cataracts, Eye Surgery, Eyes, Seeing Pink
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From a Bench on Main Street
I am distracted today as I prepare for the weekend ahead, so I don’t have much to say today, but there is an image that keeps popping up in my head. A few weeks ago I had been walking down … Continue reading
Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged couples, happiness, observations, Summer, vermont
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The Shards of Our Lives
The Significant Other is like a bull in a china shop. That is the image that usually goes through my mind when I take a dish out of the kitchen cabinet and see the condition of it. My dishes, which … Continue reading
Skinny Girl
I was always the skinny girl. Not the long, lithe, willowy model skinny girl, but the gawkishly thin, angular, hollow-eyed skinny girl. A skinny girl in school who looked like an X-ray…….with knobby knees, tiny bones, all feet and nose and elbows and spine. The … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Diet, Perspective, Uncategorized, Weight
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Fences
It has been an adjustment getting used to living in a small city, with neighbors dwelling very close by. Most of the homes on our street, built in the late 1800’s and early 1900’s, have weathered, stockade fences between them. However, this house came equipped … Continue reading
Never Mind – I’ll Tell You Later
The group is bantering witticisms back and forth and raucous laughter ensues. I am standing among them, nodding and smiling, and my brain is working hard and at double time. I am trying to string together the words I missed with … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Deafness, Friends, Hearing Impaired, Perspective, Rant
Tagged hard of hearing, hearing, hearing loss, socialization
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Spinner
This Earth Day marks the 12th anniversary of my mother’s death. A day filled with golden daffodils, warm soil, the haze of soft greening and points of pastel color just emerging – much like an Impressionist painting – essentially the same as it was on the day she left us years … Continue reading
Posted in Perspective, Regrets, Uncategorized
Tagged Angels, Earth day, Gifts, loss, Memories, mom, mother
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Door Number Three
After spending the day exploring the Spice Market and touring around in the Sultanahmet district, it finally got to the point where I seriously had to pee, and very soon, so the search for a bathroom began in earnest. In the middle … Continue reading
Posted in Humor, Perspective, Travel, Uncategorized
Tagged adventure, Istanbul, squat toilets
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Resisting the Social Network (is that you in that photo?)
It was through my then fourteen year old that I first became aware of online social networks and blogs like Live Journal and MySpace, where it seemed kids were regurgitating the minutiae of their lives ad nauseum and flaunting their bootie for the … Continue reading
Posted in Friends, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged discretion, facebook, privacy, social network
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Aftershock and Perspective
In the wake of such disaster as has occurred and continues to occur in Japan, most other issues suddenly become less significant and actually trite by comparison. The physical shock that has radiated out from Sendai and beyond also translates into … Continue reading
Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged destruction, trauma, Tsunami Japan, universal cry, vibrations
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The Color of Angels
The interior of funeral homes generally look tacky to me. I have yet to experience one that is totally tasteful (in my opinion), although I will say one of the wakes I attended last week was in a lovely old … Continue reading
Posted in Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged Angels, funerals, Wakes, wakes, what color are angels?
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Two Wakes and a Birthday Party
Two wakes and a birthday party in one week. It’s enough to really give you pause for thought. One woman was the mother of a co-worker. The other one was a neighbor, not much older than I am now. A … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Friends, Perspective, Uncategorized
Tagged birthday, old friends, rituals
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